Sometimes all you can do is speak the truth and speak up, but if someone is too stubborn to listen, then you have no other choice then let them sink and learn the hard way. No matter how hard it may be, some people just can't see the issues directly in front of them until they get hurt, and it's sad.
If someone is truly sorry for what they did, then they won't repeat that action. But if someone is gullible enough to allow that person to keep hurting them, then they're at fault. Perfection does not exist, but also hurting the one you love repeatedly whether it be verbal, physical, mental or spiritual abuse is far from perfection, in fact it's toxic.
You reached out to me because you cared and you wanted to help, I know this, and that is what makes you great. However, you allowed someone to override your heart, and pull you away for no other reason but their own. That is your weakness. You fear losing them, but in all honesty, what are you really losing, think real hard. There are better men out there, who don't have to apologize because they won't hurt you like that to begin with.
Here's a thought, next time he does the same thing to you over again that he apologized for, confront him, and tell him that you thought he was sorry for that and here he is doing it again. You can tolerate these issues in the short term, but think long term, think years and decades, these habits will eat away at your soul, and worse eat away at those around you.
Any man can buy you stuff, any man can motivate you, any man can make you life, but only one man can truly love you unconditionally. And that man who can love you won't hold anything over you in order to be with them, no matter how many times they say they're sorry. You don't want to admit it, you don't want to believe me, I understand where you are coming from, but the signs are all there, I don't want to see you hurt, but ultimately it is your choice and it is choice you should not make lightly.
There are times I will rub you the wrong way, and if that is how it has to be, then so be it. But I want to be upfront with you, and if that makes me look like the bad guy, then so be it. You're worth saving. There is a type of man, who only seek women they can control, don't let them control you, and trust me he knows exactly what he is doing to you, even if he claims to be sorry. I love you, I do, and I've warned you, I have, everything else is out of my hands. Hate me now if you must, but remember me when things start coming to the surface, I won't say I told you so, I'll simply open my arms and say how can I help you. That's who I am, I'm no magician or miracle worker, I'm a simply a good man with a good heart who wants you to be happy and not used. Read deeper into his actions, read deeper into his words, get to the core and reveal all. If needed, treat him as he treats you.
You made the offer to be there for me, and as I said before you didn't have to, but you chose to, and I believed in you, and it meant the world, but when you dropped your offer without warning, that hurt more than you ever know, I wish you would have never offered to help, if you never really intended to. So the next you ask yourself what did you do, now you have an answer, you offered something to a vulnerable friend that you never intended to deliver upon. And whether it was by your choice or not to back out, it doesn't change the fact that you did. Think for yourself, follow your heart, don't be controlled, open your eyes. I'm sorry is meaningless if nothing changes.
Ask yourself this, what do I have to lose or gain by saying this, there is nothing saying we'll be together. I lose everything and gain nothing, other then knowing I tried my best to help you see things. I do understand you, I always have even when you thought I didn't, I may not have always agreed, but I always understood, you are smart, you are strong, and I will always love and believe in you.
If someone is truly sorry for what they did, then they won't repeat that action. But if someone is gullible enough to allow that person to keep hurting them, then they're at fault. Perfection does not exist, but also hurting the one you love repeatedly whether it be verbal, physical, mental or spiritual abuse is far from perfection, in fact it's toxic.
You reached out to me because you cared and you wanted to help, I know this, and that is what makes you great. However, you allowed someone to override your heart, and pull you away for no other reason but their own. That is your weakness. You fear losing them, but in all honesty, what are you really losing, think real hard. There are better men out there, who don't have to apologize because they won't hurt you like that to begin with.
Here's a thought, next time he does the same thing to you over again that he apologized for, confront him, and tell him that you thought he was sorry for that and here he is doing it again. You can tolerate these issues in the short term, but think long term, think years and decades, these habits will eat away at your soul, and worse eat away at those around you.
Any man can buy you stuff, any man can motivate you, any man can make you life, but only one man can truly love you unconditionally. And that man who can love you won't hold anything over you in order to be with them, no matter how many times they say they're sorry. You don't want to admit it, you don't want to believe me, I understand where you are coming from, but the signs are all there, I don't want to see you hurt, but ultimately it is your choice and it is choice you should not make lightly.
There are times I will rub you the wrong way, and if that is how it has to be, then so be it. But I want to be upfront with you, and if that makes me look like the bad guy, then so be it. You're worth saving. There is a type of man, who only seek women they can control, don't let them control you, and trust me he knows exactly what he is doing to you, even if he claims to be sorry. I love you, I do, and I've warned you, I have, everything else is out of my hands. Hate me now if you must, but remember me when things start coming to the surface, I won't say I told you so, I'll simply open my arms and say how can I help you. That's who I am, I'm no magician or miracle worker, I'm a simply a good man with a good heart who wants you to be happy and not used. Read deeper into his actions, read deeper into his words, get to the core and reveal all. If needed, treat him as he treats you.
You made the offer to be there for me, and as I said before you didn't have to, but you chose to, and I believed in you, and it meant the world, but when you dropped your offer without warning, that hurt more than you ever know, I wish you would have never offered to help, if you never really intended to. So the next you ask yourself what did you do, now you have an answer, you offered something to a vulnerable friend that you never intended to deliver upon. And whether it was by your choice or not to back out, it doesn't change the fact that you did. Think for yourself, follow your heart, don't be controlled, open your eyes. I'm sorry is meaningless if nothing changes.
Ask yourself this, what do I have to lose or gain by saying this, there is nothing saying we'll be together. I lose everything and gain nothing, other then knowing I tried my best to help you see things. I do understand you, I always have even when you thought I didn't, I may not have always agreed, but I always understood, you are smart, you are strong, and I will always love and believe in you.
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