I am very observant, I notice everything people say and do, but I don't always acknowledge it or call people out on it. So in short, I always know when someone is lying to me, especially the more I care for someone I know when I'm being lied too, even the seemingly harmless white lies. And what hurts me more than anything is two things, being lied to by those who I love the most and being disrespected by those I love the most (rather they mean to or not).
Now I'm really just making a general point here, not calling anyone out by any means, but just saying what my heart feels and how someone might come off even if they are unaware of it. First off, actions speak a million times more than words ever will, you can say you love someone all day, but until you truly show it, it is just words. For example, I don't just say I love the woman I do with all I got, I show it by always giving and helping her, by always trying to cheer her up, by always putting her first, I try to walk the walk, not just talk the talk, and she knows if she allowed me too, I would do even more to show her through actions my love for her.
Anyway, back to my point, my time is valuable, I don't have a lot of free time nowadays, and what little I have I most definitely want to spend with those I love most. I do realize other's time is valuable as well, and I more than respect that. But with me, no matter how valuable my time is, I will always do my best to make time for those I love for the simple reason they matter to me. I will never make them a fallback option, I will never dread spending time with them, and most of all I would never lie to someone I loved to make myself feel less guilty about avoiding them. You see, when someone consistently makes excuses to not see you, makes lies to not see you, yet promises but never calls back, yet you see where they make time for others regularly, that tells me they don't care for me at all like they claim to, it tells me they disrespect my time, it tells me don't want me around. Now maybe they don't realize it when they do it, but its true.
I'm the type of person who will give everything for those I love, I will give all of myself, all my time, all my effort, I mean everything, but if someone who claims they care for me keeps pushing me away, keeps making excuses to not see each other, well eventually with no warning I will disappear from them forever, and I always try to make things work, I always give every chance I can, but when I finally can't take it anymore, I disappear and I don't ever come back. In the end, I truly do respect myself and my time, and I treat my loved ones with the same respect I expect in return. So please, don't lie to me if you do care for me, and don't push me away and expect me to be ok if you care for me, think about your actions and not just how they affect you, but also how they affect the one's you claim to love.
Once again, this is more about how I feel, not about anyone or anything anyone has done. The woman I love most, is very good at balancing this with me, she understands this about me, and it is part of why I love her so much. She makes that effort to remind me she loves me, she is honest with me, she respects my time and expects me to respect her time. Even in silence, she and I communicate and get each other, believe me though we learned each other through screwing up and over time we figured one another out. I know when she wants space, I know when she is silent that I need to be patient and let her have space, I know when she is ready she'll reach out to me, and she knows that every now and then a simple check in on me or "like button" let's me know she cares about me. I love her so much, because I see her effort, and I know her well enough to know she values her effort and time, and the simple fact she gives me time and effort from yourself, no matter how little is, means the world to me. Her honestly means the world to me, and when we do talk, albeit rare and brief, her eyes remind me how close we are. She is amazing, and she worked hard to learn me, she earned my heart.
Now I'm really just making a general point here, not calling anyone out by any means, but just saying what my heart feels and how someone might come off even if they are unaware of it. First off, actions speak a million times more than words ever will, you can say you love someone all day, but until you truly show it, it is just words. For example, I don't just say I love the woman I do with all I got, I show it by always giving and helping her, by always trying to cheer her up, by always putting her first, I try to walk the walk, not just talk the talk, and she knows if she allowed me too, I would do even more to show her through actions my love for her.
Anyway, back to my point, my time is valuable, I don't have a lot of free time nowadays, and what little I have I most definitely want to spend with those I love most. I do realize other's time is valuable as well, and I more than respect that. But with me, no matter how valuable my time is, I will always do my best to make time for those I love for the simple reason they matter to me. I will never make them a fallback option, I will never dread spending time with them, and most of all I would never lie to someone I loved to make myself feel less guilty about avoiding them. You see, when someone consistently makes excuses to not see you, makes lies to not see you, yet promises but never calls back, yet you see where they make time for others regularly, that tells me they don't care for me at all like they claim to, it tells me they disrespect my time, it tells me don't want me around. Now maybe they don't realize it when they do it, but its true.
I'm the type of person who will give everything for those I love, I will give all of myself, all my time, all my effort, I mean everything, but if someone who claims they care for me keeps pushing me away, keeps making excuses to not see each other, well eventually with no warning I will disappear from them forever, and I always try to make things work, I always give every chance I can, but when I finally can't take it anymore, I disappear and I don't ever come back. In the end, I truly do respect myself and my time, and I treat my loved ones with the same respect I expect in return. So please, don't lie to me if you do care for me, and don't push me away and expect me to be ok if you care for me, think about your actions and not just how they affect you, but also how they affect the one's you claim to love.
Once again, this is more about how I feel, not about anyone or anything anyone has done. The woman I love most, is very good at balancing this with me, she understands this about me, and it is part of why I love her so much. She makes that effort to remind me she loves me, she is honest with me, she respects my time and expects me to respect her time. Even in silence, she and I communicate and get each other, believe me though we learned each other through screwing up and over time we figured one another out. I know when she wants space, I know when she is silent that I need to be patient and let her have space, I know when she is ready she'll reach out to me, and she knows that every now and then a simple check in on me or "like button" let's me know she cares about me. I love her so much, because I see her effort, and I know her well enough to know she values her effort and time, and the simple fact she gives me time and effort from yourself, no matter how little is, means the world to me. Her honestly means the world to me, and when we do talk, albeit rare and brief, her eyes remind me how close we are. She is amazing, and she worked hard to learn me, she earned my heart.
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